SPRING-Clean Declutter - Need Help

[soul]

Ouch @Former-Member - that break looks nasty. Hope he had travel insurance. Glad that your temperature has lowered. You will still need to take it easy for a while. Could it be allergy because of all the cleaning up you are doing? Dust mites, mould etc. can cause breathing difficulties. 

I had a wonderful time at the markets and picked up some yummy berries,veges, a sand crab lasagne that we'll have when my son comes over for dinner and even some dog treats. It's quite warm out. Will head out to yoga soon. 

[Former-Member]

@soul Dust might from the DECLUTTERING / cleaning is my highest allerfen so I take measures to minimize - damp dust & mask, ventilation & closing off areas etc. But this is different. I was in the garden when it hit hard Thursday so maybe something in the dry hot winds. Dr said "asthmatics have come out of the woodwork lately" Its possible the stress isnt helping. Theres an emotional link to asthma. I hope I'm not allergic to my new birds. I have been thinking about that 😞

Fortunately my son did have travel health insurance. Not job insurance though (made redundant first day back) 😕  

Really hot here today too. 

The markets, haven't done that for years. Not sure about "sand crab lasagne" 😮 is that like crab meat instead of mince? (Don't think I'd be brave enough). Hope it goes down well with the boy tonight. Enjoy yoga 🌟 I'm impressed. 

1. Garage Sale still planned for Oct'21 

[Kurra]

Hi @Former-Member

Such a lot on your plate atm! I too am xevluttering/tossing out etc. Spinal pain is limiting how muchI can do. 20 mins max and I'm flst on my back for 30 to 40 mins. Such a nuisance. The only part of my back not affected now is between my shoulder blades and my skull. I really do understand how difficult it is for you. Hugzzz.

Do go to see Your Mum and Dad. Ignore uour Mum's acerbic comments. It must be very hard for her.

I lnow fsr too many people who didn't go and eho have carried enormous guilt ever since. Do this for you.

I've been back to work a week and my pneumonia has flared up again. Sometimes it's impossible to win!

Thinking of you lass. You're in my thoughts and prayers. 💕💖💕

[soul]

So you have four weeks to get prepared for the Garage sale @Former-Member. Have you got anyone to help you on the day? Could be good when a whole heap (hopefully) of strangers go sorting through your things. 

Hope your allergies and your asthma eases soon. That can be annoying and yes, I think stress definitely plays a part. 

I'll let you know about the lasagne. My lad will be coming over tomorrow night. Darling daughter doesn't know yet if she will be around for dinner but if she is, the boyfriend will be too as they are going out to a gig later. May have to prepare an entree as there won't be enough to go around. Either that or add some crusty bread and a big salad. I've never had sand crab lasagne but the woman said that it was her signature dish. It's not something I would make so that's why I bought it. I do like to try new things. 

What is it with the weather? Seems like we have moved straight to summer. 

Does your son come over for a meal now and then?

[Former-Member]

When my son comes home, of cause he has a meal. Nothing flash but he does like a lamb toast and veg. He lives 3hr drive away, in the big smoke, so doesn't come home much. For a long time anxiety caused me to stuff up cooking, or take too long which he hated. but getting better.

My temp is 38° tonight, even with pain & antiinflammatory tablets.

GARAGE SALE - I'm trying to solicit company for the day (all those strangers 😨 going through my stuff, haggling. saying goodbye to memories... 😞) Not sure I can do it on my own, hopefully 4wks will be enough to get well enough. Already sold a couple things on Gumtree. Might set things up on the veranda to sell before then. Bit scary actually.

Thanks for dropping by, I'm feeling alone & vulnerable. It hurts so much to cough now. Having that thought - "if this is pneumonia, it could be my socially acceptable ticket out of here" do I or don't I seek treatment? Depressive thoughts don't miss an opportunity, but they are only thoughts. Still look for validation when I'm sick, some sign 'I matter'. Early last week I mailed cads to mum & dad, my son & my sister. None of the have responded, acknowledged... Tx is so easy, why can't they do that? I don't think I matter much.

[soul]

It's nice to have some company when eating a meal. It makes whatever you are dining on so much better. I have never been to a restaurant or cafe on my own. If I am hungry or thirsty and can't wait until I get home, I will just have something on the move. I didn't realise that your son lived so far away from you. My lad is about a half hour drive away. 

Yuck - that you're feeling crook again. Please get some help if it gets worse. 

Maybe try to put a few of the more valuable things up on Gumtree. Be prepared to give away stuff or throw them away if they don't sell at the Garage sale.

That sucks about your family not responding. All four of them. It surely doesn't take that much effort. You must be feeling very dejected. I emailed my big brother last week and mentionedvthat I was struggling with grief over Mum's passing. Here was the only family member I could communicate with and he hasn't responded yet either. Maybe he got distracted and forgot. Oh well 😥.

Still haven't replied to my sister about the DVDs of the conversations we had with Mum. Don't know what to do. She made it very clear, she wanted nothing to do with me. Don't want to set myself up for more hurt by meeting with her. Suppose I'll just let her know where I live so she can post them or drop them off. 

Haven't heard from ex partner in two weeks. Don't know if he's had a meltdown or what. He's not responding to my emails.

Relationships can be so complicated and frustrating!!

[Former-Member]

Thanks for sharing that @Soul, makes me feel a little normal, or less alone, that family can be so  heartless. The email to your brother - that was brave but in my experience - men are not good at going there, emotional stuff. What might help is to plan a get together to remember your mum, her fav park or restaurant... Prrtrnd your sis didn't say what she didm ppl say stupid things in the heat of the moment. Well, easier said than done, I have same issue with my sis. 

[soul]

My sister has said too many hurtful things @Former-Member. She has been outright cold towards me and my family. Didn't even acknowledge my kids when they came up to see their grandmother for the last time in hospital whereas I chatted with all of hers and gave them each a hug. 

Might need to give t a bit more time. I had resigned myself to the fact that we had gone our separate ways and then she sends that message. Confusing to say the least. 

[ideaslady]

Hi @Former-Member .... thinking of you and your asthma. I really hope that it's not your birds causing it too. Sending healing thoughts your way.

[Former-Member]

Hi @ideaslady, how are you? Don't know you yet (or forgot lol). Think i've turned a corner, still achy, woke in a lather of sweat through the night and temp normal this morn "broke the fever maybe" ☺

@soul, your sis sure sounds hard and defensive, but think, to move forward, you need to forgive her (in your heart), disregard the past a moment, answer her message briefly, thanking her for thinking of you & yes, you'd like copies. Chances are you won't see much of each other after that anyway. She's processing grief too and seems trying to do the right thing with movies at least. We do have to not expect anything from them, hurts I know. Self Care needed when these things surface pain. Hope sunday dinner goes well.
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