SPRING-Clean Declutter - Need Help

[soul]

Hi @Former-Member - hope you slept well. So much on your plate at the moment. I hope you are taking care of yourself. How are things with your parents? The house situation?

I'm thinking that your dear litttle birds are chirping away. What a simple life they lead. Bet you'd love to trade places with them. 

[Former-Member]

Thanks @soul, hope you're OK too. Today I'm gonna "park it" (as @Faith-and-Hope would say), the issue with my parents that is. Spent all morning yesterday sorting a couple of things out there. Let the dust settle on that before I do more. Maybe tomorrow 😞

Feel achey today and work this afternoon so gotta regroup my self care as you say.

🏠THE HOUSE decluttering is less urgent atm, focus is more on the front garden before expected rain on the weekend. My energy levels only give me about 45min bursts so I have to pace myself. At least the garden is pleasant. BUT, I must say, last weeks effort has had an unexpected spinoff i wasnt expecting - RELIEF! - having boxed up 12+boxes of things i don't need, & getting all the unwanted / unneeded stuff separated in one room - it sure has restored a sense of control & calm - in the living areas at least. When I tidy, or even do the dishes now - it looks tidy 🙂 and I feel free 😀

I haven't heard from the Real Estate Agent all week, so things are slow in that department.

@Owlunar, you sure do have a good understanding of my family dynamics and personal battles. Thank you for being here. How might you be yourself this week? One day at a time still gets us there 🙂

[soul]

Glad to hear that you are prioritisng things @Former-Member. That organised home of yours must be spreading to other areas of your life. I have the tiniest garden. Can mow the grass (or mostly weeds) with a handmower. Just a few shrubs and an aloe vera plant. Plus my potted lavender - stil alive!!

Have a beautiful day and take care. 

[Owlunar]

Hi @Former-Member

I am glad you are sorting out the issues with your parents from home bit by bit and have parked it until tomorrow - this is hard yards - it seems you are the only one who can deal with this and it has to be very hard

I think I understand enough from what you have written that I do "get it" - your dad isn't really capable at all about managing his health issues which only makes them worse and your mother is in a complete state of denial - and so it's a time-bomb now - and what comes next? This has to be on your mind

Cleaning up your own house and yard is more beneficial - you can see the work you are doing and you only do what you can manage and it doesn't go crook at you. 

You have a lot of decisions to make right now or sooner rather than later - make one each day or as they come up. Try and not let them overcome you - you seem to be alone in all of this

But you have people here who care - and you can sound off

Sending some hugs - I think I have my favourite little clip art hug here

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And yes - me - I am with you in the achey-painey club - dunno what ails my right knee - it has been opened twice already - enough enough

Catch ya lata

[soul]

Hi @Former-Member - thought I'd check in on you here. Any more decluttering to do or has that taken a back seat to all the family stuff?

Got plans for the weekend? I'm catching up with my girlfriend tomorrow morning and we are going to some markets. Hopefully will see my son too this weekend. 

[Former-Member]

Thanks for thinking of me but i dont have any motivational things to report. Crashed as usual 😕

Sounds like a few positives planned for your w'end @soul.

I'm feeling really sorry for myself. Have a terrible persistent irritaring dry cough that came on suddenly yesterday around the same time I collapsed gardening. All weird but probably a virus setting off the asthma. Don't feel well at all. Not doung much, decluttering shelved & fortunately RE agent quiet (no pressure). And no energy for family dramas. Wish I wasn't alone, makes it hard to fight it.  About to go to Dr apt.

[soul]

Sorry to hear that you're not well @Former-Member. It's impossible to be upbeat all of the time, even 50% is hard.

Hope you get that cough dealt with. Feeling physically unwell can have flow on effects to our mental well being and vice versa. Take care, my friend.

My daughter will be scarce all weekend. But she has been a lot better this week. Told her it would be a good idea if she washed "her" dog. Will see how that goes.

[Former-Member]

[soul]

Did you get to the doctor @Former-Member?  Hope you're feeling a bit better. 

[Owlunar]

Hi @Former-Member

I would rather read than do the housework nearly all of the time - I have done enough housework in my life time like most women - 

But I have never done enough reading

Anyway - yes - I get it being alone when there are confronting issues happening - esp with your parents and also your son  - there is no one about to talk about it just to relieve the issues

Before I went away the last time I told my daughter sometimes I need to chat with her because I can see my own decisions better - I am not sure if she understood that - but I think she did actually - she is maturing in mid-life - so give you son another 20 years - aw - I know it's a long time

About seeing yellow yesterday - that could be pressure in your eyes - your high blood pressure perhaps

You have been working hard for a few weeks now - before the de-cluttering you had the tree - huge amount of heavy work - and now your son has broken his arm and your parents are aging and becoming more frail

How great to have someone to chat with - but then I used to talk AT my husband rather than with him

Wishing you the best Lapses

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