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05 Jun 2024 04:33 PM
05 Jun 2024 04:33 PM
Hey @sol_49 ,
Hugs back to you!
It's always great to hear your responses because you are so open and ready to make changes. When reading your posts, you can really see that you have an open mind to whatever is happening and I think this is what may get you over the line, even when things are most difficult.
Yeah, social media is a no no to me. It's not worth the tears. I've got better things to do with my life than live on my devices. After reading how tech giants earn money for every minute people spend browsing their content, it makes me feel erk and so many are falling into the trap without even knowing...
For me, I feel if things are meant to be, then they are meant to me. If people want to be around me, then good on them. If not, good riddance. Maybe I'm conservative and old fashioned???? I don't know.
06 Jun 2024 07:51 PM
06 Jun 2024 07:51 PM
06 Jun 2024 10:00 PM
06 Jun 2024 10:00 PM
Yes, I love how you have framed it "I need to build a life that I love" @sol_49 . It's so true.
You are the author of your own story. If you don't like how it's going - change it.
I recognise it's easier said than done, but I believe that is it more than possible. We just need each other to do it.
When I look back, I never thought I'd be alive today. It was the words of a clinician that challenged me and made me change my story.
I hope to connect with you more regularly. We can support each other 🙂
07 Jun 2024 03:53 PM
07 Jun 2024 03:53 PM
07 Jun 2024 04:27 PM
07 Jun 2024 04:27 PM
Hey @sol_49 ,
I'm hearing you. You know what? You are not alone in having experienced an online relationship. There have been many people who have been through something similar.
Whilst you may be feeling low and unable to help yourself, this is the time we connect to people. For me, when I felt I absolutely couldn't do it, others simply had to carry me through. Our job is to surrender to this.
You are already reaching out here on the forums, and this is a great start.
When I was recovering, these forums played a huge part. @sol_49
07 Jun 2024 05:17 PM
07 Jun 2024 05:17 PM
07 Jun 2024 05:22 PM
07 Jun 2024 05:22 PM
Nah, you're not bothering me. @sol_49
No one can do the things that only you can do to help yourself.
The forums are to empower people to help themselves. Yet ultimately, the person needs to act.
We recognise this is not always easy, hence we are here to cheer each other on.
I'll wait to hear how you go.
07 Jun 2024 07:18 PM
07 Jun 2024 07:18 PM
Thanks @tyme
Like maybe I could write here when I am feeling the urge to write to him?
I do need something ‘bigger than me’ to put my faith in to.
Natalie Lue has written a few great books on online relationships and emotional unavailability. She suggested CoDA or Co dependants anonymous for people who struggle with these types of issues, and I think I will check that out.
07 Jun 2024 07:36 PM
07 Jun 2024 07:36 PM
That's a good idea @sol_49 . Give it a go. You can tell him anything you want. Let it all out.
I wonder if this is part of the grieving process?
07 Jun 2024 09:03 PM
07 Jun 2024 09:03 PM
I don’t understand why one visit from you makes me want to open up so so much.
What is that all about?
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thanks @tyme
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