My darling wife has undiagnosed BPD, the symptoms include: 1. Self sabotaging behaviour 2. No filter on what she says 3. Very angry 4. Struggles with her identity and place in community 5. Threatening behaviour towards others, often extremely violent and vicious threats, usually directed at me (her carer) 6. Wild mood swings she can write me the most beautiful. love letters one day and is then threatening me with violence the next. 7. Tumultuous relationships with other family members 8. Swings from idolisation one day to extreme loathing the next 9. Risky behaviour and impulsivity It has brought our 32year relationship to its knees, however I love her so much I refuse to give up on her and forgive her everything 1000 times multiplied by 1000 times